Notice his excuses. Has there been a sudden surge of his excuses for not being able to spend time with you? Was he excited to meet you for a date tonight then last minute he backs out for some random reasons? He used to have all the free time dedicated to you. Now, he’s always “on boys’ night out”. He is showing signs of sudden interest in hanging out with the bros than with you. He is stuck at work doing overtime, all the time! You reason out, there are times he really needs to render overtime at work but that doesn’t stopped him from seeing you, right? “Sorry, babe, I am too tired. Some other time maybe?” Is this his usual spiel when you would want to hang out or stay out late? Chances are he has used up most of his energy on someone else. He skips out on dinner or movie dates or is never in the mood to do things together with you. Simply put: I don’t have time for you. You are now starting to wonder why he doesn’t want to spend time with you, right? The answer is simple. He is busy hanging out with some other girl.
Take note of what he says. Your boyfriend starts saying things that make him sound like another person. If he is just a completely different person when he talks to you. He sounds different. He’s saying things he’s never said before, using words he’s never used before, then maybe he picked up those from his special lady. If he is not big on compliments before and now he showers you with it, you wonder why. Or he used to flatter you all the time before and then stops doing it, something is wrong. Guilt can make people do things that out of their normal self or maybe he’s saving all of his flattery for someone else.
Notice What he Does. Is there a change in your sex life? If there is a really long dry spell and he never wants to have sex anymore, he may be getting action somewhere else. Or if he has this sudden insatiable sexual appetite, it may be because his sex drive has gone up from sleeping with another lady. Was there any renewed interest to do some new moves in bed? It may be the from another girl.
Sudden change in your partner’s attitude can spell trouble. If your partner is much nicer or more helpful than usual, some serious guilt might be causing it. Since he’s cheating on you, he may be doing it to compensate and may be even more nicer to you. See if he’s meticulously clean all of a sudden. He may be trying to hide evidence of his other girl or doing it to clean up for her. How about his mood changes? Whether he seems to always be in a good mood, or is just moody all the time instead of his usual jolly self, then something is up. Pay attention to his mood to see if something is up. Shady behavior is pretty easy to see. If he’s spending a lot of time texting, on the phone or online, this could be a sign that he’s chatting it up with another girl. Does he shut his computer down when you walk into a room? Take a hint. Has he gone MIA a lot of times on you? If he can’t take the time to answer your call or just send you a quick message, then he may be with another girl.
Notice his Appearance. Your man’s appearance can say a lot about whether or not he’s cheating. If he didn’t care much about his appearance before, but now spends more time grooming than you do, then something is up. He may be improving or changing his looks to please his side piece. Pay attention also on how he treats his body. If your man is suddenly interested in working out all the time and gives a big deal about his appearance, he may not be doing it just for you. Pay attention to his body language. People guilty of cheating their partners cannot make eye contact when you talk. Affection is non-existent. If he used to shower you with affection but rarely touches you, this is a red flag. A cheater would always have this fear of being caught. So if your partner stands a foot away from you when you’re out in public, he may be hiding something from you.
Investigate. Once the signs have added up and you have this strong stand that he is cheating, it’s time to make him confess. Ask, yes, ask! You can catch him off guard. You should still pick the right time and place to do it so he cannot fabricate those lies straight to your face. Honesty is utmost important in a relationship. Tell him to stop lying and just fess up. Living a double life is really tiring. Be sincere in your words and show him how hurt you are with what he has done.
If you’re on Sherlock mode, follow him but do it carefully or else, you won’t get your evidence. Show up when he’s not expecting it. Come over at random times, see how he acts. Is he happy to see you, or angry that you showed up without warning? Drop by his work to give him coffee or a late-night snack if he says that he’s working overtime. You can also snoop through his things. If you’re really sure he’s cheating and just want to put the nail in the coffin, go for it. Look through his phone or check his computer. You may even check his bank statements!
None of these signs alone means that your boyfriend is cheating on you. However, if these things repeatedly comes up more often than usual and you are still waiting for him to make time for you, then it is time to ask yourself why you are still in that relationship.