I met a man, who claimed he was separated, and I became involved with eventually. In the span of 3 months, he only visited me 5 times. We are in a long-distance relationship and he only travels for work. He suddenly to take some time off. And then he resurfaced and now wants to spend time together. I found out that he has been spending time with his other woman and lied to me the whole time! Who is this man and does he sees me as a fool? — XO
He is a liar and a cheater. Period. His work allows him to travel thus presents him with a lot of opportunities to meet different women and keep them from knowing one another. He didn’t see you as a fool, you just ignored those red flags he kept on waving at you!
You are not his first victim and won’t be the last. He hasn’t change and you in a relationship with him doesn’t make a difference to his cheating lifestyle. I would love for you to get checked for STD. Next is for you to kick him to the curb, let him know how you feel and work through the pain in all means possible. The hardest one to do is to — Thank God or that supreme being for the experience. Thank Him (or Her) for making the relationship short-lived, for not having gotten married, for not bearing his offspring. Thank Them for the lessons you have learned and will learn. Ask for guidance in healing. Learn to overcome that feeling of betrayal. No matter how hard it is, it must be done. It will heal you from trauma and will help you in handling your future relationships better.
There is always a rainbow after the rain. Love your self. Believe in love again. Take a breather.